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Lane says
I like the small posts. I’d love little lesson posts, like “Color 101” or “Top Ten Tools for Beginners.” Also, please don’t pay attention to GOMI. There is nothing you could ever do to please them, and they represent a small fraction of your readership. Only a few people post the bulk of the comments, and they must have no lives if their primary hobby is criticizing yours.
Jenica says
Sherry, I understand that you went to art school, and I think it would do you some good to consider how your professors would have reacted to your blog. Early on, there was a time when I showed up to crit with a major project unfinished. Everything had gone wrong at the last minute, and I was so sleep deprived and angry at myself I may have started crying a bit. Embarrassing to say the least. But it was a wake up call for me, and I worked on my time management, and figured out how to take on the big projects I wanted without falling flat on my face if things went wrong again. This needs to be your wake up call, I think.
You’ve been at this for many years now, and I just don’t see that you’ve grown in your diy skills or your business practices. And then to show up with excuses about why things didn’t work out- well, it just doesn’t cut it at this point in your career. Would you show up at a critique with a whole list of excuses and say you were “OMG so busy,”? I sure hope not, ’cause it’s vastly unprofessional. And this is your profession, even though it’s one you carved out from the ground up. I think there are a lot of great suggestions here, and I do hope you take some of them. Critiques were among the best part of art school for me, and pushed me so much further than if I were creating in a vacuum. You have an echo chamber of fans praising everything you do, but you also have fans who want to see you do better, and I think that they’re the ones you need to listen to.
Michela says
This is such a good point. Many of us who work in more traditional work environments with colleagues and superiors are used to constructive criticism of our work. We grow and refine and finesse our talents because we have people around us 40+ hours/week telling us what we can do to be better. Maybe it’s hard to find that sort of constructive support when you’re both stay-at-home bloggers, and maybe that’s why your readers feel so disconnected- because we haven’t been working “together” to grow, refine, and finesse YHL. So as Jenica suggests, consider this the constructive criticism you’ve been lacking for the past seven years as you’ve worked in a vacuum. After all, 1300 comments should last you awhile ; )
C says
Couldn’t agree more, with both of you guys!
Kristen says
This is exactly how I feel. If you had created your own wallpapering business or whatever and told your client “hey, we had an appointment with you today but can’t make it. Sorry. Super busy.” your client would be pissed and probably wouldn’t do business with you anymore. It annoys me when people reply to negative comments on here with “it’s just a blog, if you don’t like it, don’t read it” – but it’s not just a blog. It’s not a hobby. It’s your career and you don’t seem to care about it anymore.
As a former dedicated fan who would look at your page every morning at 10 am, I’m just sad and disappointed that I’m not inspired by you anymore.
Sue says
Hi guys,
I’ve been following your blog for the last 3 years, and I agree with many of the previous posts about it feeling like your hearts aren’t in it. I want to be as candid and respectful as possible, but when you decided to cut back, it kind of felt like a slap in the face. You guys spend a lot of time making us all fall in love with your family, and then just pull the rug out from under us, and cut back. I totally understand that you have a growing family, but the rest of us do too, and we have families with both parents working full time, and raising children, and doing our diy’s on weekends and evenings.
Another concern is relatabity. Clearly from being on the New York Times best sellers list, you would have generated at minimum a million dollars from your book alone (mostly because of all of us). So, when you post things about “having to save up” for something comes across as really condescending. Give me a break already. I’m sure that you guys really need to search for items on sale…. It just feels dishonest.
Sorry for the sarcasm. I do feel really disconnected from you guys over the last year or so. I know that sounds slightly creepy, but it’s true.
I do also agree that you won’t ever please everyone. And I miss some of the old posts about decorating, tablescapes, etc.
Congrats on all your success. I really mean that. I just don’t think you should forget all of us that helped get you there.
priscilla says
I was with you until yous said that about “making a million dollars since your book was on the New Yorl TIMES list”. This totally NOT TRUE! All it takes is about 25000 sales to be there and a 1st time author gets maybe $2 per book. So the most they would have made is $50k and probably not that.
C says
Very good points Sue. I’m with you.
Maryellen says
Talk about the dark side of human nature, people have taken a simple question and turned it into an all out ambush. I hope that many of you who have responded with all out criticism do not operate this way in your personal lives. Because if I asked someone a specific question, “Would you prefer if I do this or this?” and they responded by unleashing every single thing I’ve ever done that dissatisfied them, it wouldn’t be someone I’d keep around very long.
I get paid time off. Sometimes I use it to clean. Sometimes I use it to take a vacation. Sometimes I use it to spend time with family members fighting cancer. How is it anyone’s business (whether someone works for themselves or for someone else) what we do when we have to wave the white flag and say “I have to set a limit here.”
I feel so strongly that we are either supportive of each others intent to pursue their own individual goals (whatever that might be) or we are making the world a shaming, critical, and judgmental place. There are some great examples of both in these comments. John and Sherry, I hope you are familiar with Roosevelt’s “The Man in the Arena” quote. And I hope you are only interested in the feedback of those who are in their own “arenas.”
Kat says
Maryellen,
Well-said. Thank you.
Kateri says
Hi! Throwing in my two cents. Giveaway days I find very annoying. It’d be fun to win but it’s a waste of a blog post. It’s silly but I get frustrated when I see the weekly giveaway post and no longer even submit to win. Yes, silly. But it is what it is. I definitely would enjoy smaller more relatable and doable posts. I love your blog and I definitely want to keep reading it! Keep up the good work.
Ellen says
John & Sherry,
I don’t really care what you post, I just look forward to finding out what you are up to!! I also love the reader redesigns and I loved the reader “dilemma” posts you were doing. That being said, I know ” little posts” are very time consuming as well. I respect whatever you decide to do, and will keep reading even if you dwindle down to once a week. If you can find the time, I think it would be great to fill in your tues/thurs will user generated type content. I admit I miss your daily postings.
While I admit to skimming some of the technical posts, I always search for them at a later date when I’m starting a project. It might not be terribly interesting to me the date you post, but it is soooo helpful later.
As far as not being able to please everyone, it’s true. What we really want is to be your real life BFFs and to call you up and chat home improvement together. So, until then, we will settle for your postings, however frequent, and about whatever you feel like writing about. It’s your blog after all!
Krista says
Honestly, I was just thinking the other day how much I miss the “small posts”. I’ve always enjoyed the small projects and family related posts the most. I am not near as handy as y’all (unfortunately), so while the large projects are amazing and interesting, they are not something I would tackle. Also, in contrast to the drama in the thread, I appreciate that you always stay true to yourselves… It’s in large what make you so endearing.
CHRISTINA says
I love any and all posts! Very sad day when there is nothing….
Jenny says
I much prefer smaller posts to no posts at all. I love house crashing and reader redesigns. The DIY posts are great too, but when you’re not currently planning to retile etc., it’s nice to have a post about something else too.
Mary says
Holy cow. Probably adding to the problem with this comment but I can’t get over all the “I come here everyday looking for new content; you’re the only blog I read, and you’re doing it wrong” comments.
YOU GUYS. Feedly.com. Get a blog reader, some other blog subscriptions, and a hobby.
Sherry, John and fam, you just keep on keepin’ on. If renovating the laundry room is what you’re doing, then do that. I’ve been fascinated to see the transformation come together, and appreciate all the time and care you take with photos and explanations. I had to look back at past weeks to understand what people were talking about re: less frequent content (I still don’t get it), because the project posts that you put up are SO detailed and meaty. It’s always a joy to dig into a new one.
Anyway, if you want to turn the comments off after this, I for one wouldn’t blame you!
Stacey says
Hi John and Sherry,
I just read this entire thread. Wow are you two gutsy to ask for feedback!
YHL was my favorite break in my workday. I used to be able to count on 9 posts a week and taking a 10am and 2pm break.
Maybe unfairly, you felt like the friend that never let me down. So when you announced your book, I pre-ordered the minute it was available. I actually have 3 copies, apparently, I talked about your site so much, people bought me the other 2 as presents.
Lately, I have been getting this sense that you two are over blogging, and it saddens me. It feels like you are just doing this blog because maybe your publisher requires it for the next book or it’s part of some contract for some side gig. The personality does seem to be missing.
I must say, I really miss you publishing more. I miss knowing you would be there waiting to brighten my work day. And I miss knowing what type of post I could count on and when.
That being said.. I still check every day at 10:00am in the hopes of a new post and I’m sure I will continue to do so.
Basically, I miss you. And I would love more YHL in my life. And maybe unfairly – the old YHL.
Sheri says
Hi guys! First time commenter (except for maybe a couple of the giveaway posts of yesteryear) and I haven’t read all the comments– good luck with that by the way– so I’m not sure if anyone has already brought this up… I’ve been reading for over 3 years. In previous posts where you’ve discussed your success blogging, you’ve always said that part of your success was ‘going with your gut’ or ‘sticking to your style of blogging’ or something along those lines. You’ve always said that you can’t please everyone so you just ‘keep it real’ and authentic. You’ve also said the blog always comes first. Before the book. Before the side projects. Etc. So I think we feel like you’ve let us down. Because the blog is clearly not the first priority anymore (of course family first, but in assuming you know I would get that). It’s coming across as if you don’t love this gig anymore. Which is fine, a lot of people are ready for a promotion or new challenge when they’ve been in a role for several years. So two things: 1) I guess I’m surprised you even asked what kind of posts people would like. I mean, feedback is good, but you had to know that everyone is going to have a different opinion. And that you won’t be able please everyone. You’ve said that all along. Why not just do what you want? Are you looking for validation that yes, the blog is lacking? Because you already know that. Or you wouldn’t ask what to do about it. 2) Maybe it’s time for the next challenge. The blog doesn’t have to be number one anymore. But be up front about that. And if it still should be, then find ways to tackle new challenges so you feel like you yourself are growing. Not new DIY challenges. But new business challenges. And dont be afraid to change course from previous things you’ve said. If you need to hire an employee or two or five to keep the blog as the first priority, do it. Or if you need to say, the blog is no longer the first priority, say it. And don’t be too scared to go with your gut. It got you this far.
Meghan says
Still have a deep love for YHL, but as others have said I find myself checking it less and less frequently. Congrats on the laundry room, it looks great. But, as a renter there hasn’t been much that applies to me. I few filler posts that are quick and simple or guest posts would be a nice change up.
Penny says
Hey John and Sherry. I would like to give you two a big virtual hug. I am an occasional reader who never ever reads the comment section, but I just happened to get directed by your thread. Wow! Just want to say that some of my favorite bloggers post just once or twice a week. I like quality, not quantity and you are doing just fine. Just reading some of the comments aloud to my son and hubby. We are horrified, but still managing to laugh at some of the total ridiculousness. I hope you will do the same. xxx
Mark says
I have been a faithful reader since you started. You guys just do what you need to do. If new content is posted I will be reading. If not I will check back later. You both do a fantastic job of incorporating all aspects of your life which my wife and I enjoy.
People should not fault you for becoming popular and having timelines with your other projects outside your blog. Until you charge me a fee to view your blog I feel I have no right to criticize anything you do or don’t do.
Love the new laundry room and can’t wait to see it finished. My wife and I just finished up a makeover on our mud/laundry room. Thanks for the inspiration.
Crystal says
My first reaction to the lack of post is I pray everyone is safe and well. Yes, I was disappointed but it makes me even more look forward to Monday’s post. It’s okay. Life happens. Just keep doing what you’re doing. Because you’re doing a great job!
As far as content goes I might not need the know how of installing doors. But I still find it interesting and when I do I know where to find it. If you’re tired from a big project go ahead and put a small update on. I just enjoy seeing how your rooms evolve.
Theresa P says
I say do what is best for you guys and don’t worry about what everybody else thinks. I have 3 kids and am getting ready to graduate from medical school and will soon be a physician. If I had a dime for every time somebody said, “I don’t know how you do it!” I’d be rich. It also annoys me for numerous reasons. I’ve learned to let their statements roll of my back and do what is best for me. With you guys I hear people telling you, “I was worried you guys were taking on too much” or “I don’t know how you do it with 2 kids,” yet at the same time they tell you they want more. If you don’t want to do more, don’t. If you want to, then do it. With that being said, I know you guys are making a living out of this, so it is hard not to do what the readers want. But you guys are some pretty talented people and if you continue to put your hearts into your writing and do what you love, I have no doubt you will be successful whether at blogging or anything else life may bring your way!
Shannon Burke says
I think you guys are doing great! I love reading your take and a few others on different things that can be done, found, etc. But I find it surprising that people think they have to be obsessed with every post. That’s what the internet is for, there is literally something for everyone. I’d assume that its totally appropriate and expected for people to stop in once or twice a week. I love that you guys take reader comments to heart, but please take them all with a grain of salt. You’re evolving and changing as is everything around us, and the sky is blue…what am I missing?
Linda says
Ok, one of your older readers here, both in time reading the blog and in age. I admire you for asking for comments,but IMO, you guys just can’t win with some segment of the reading population, no matter what you do, so do what your hearts tell you.
I for one don’t see the whining and excuse-making some of the readers claim to see, and I discount the GOMI faction (from what I can see, it usually the same group of posters over there fixating on your blog ever since it hit the’big time’ – although I suspect GOMI’s owner thanks her lucky stars every day you exist).
Did I love the daily posts – sure did! Do I think you’re blowing readers off by changing as you mature and explore new approaches and maybe even new endeavors…nope, not at all – but I wouldn’t have understood that process when I was 24 years old.
I have to admit I found it interesting that some may think you earned millions from your book. I’m guessing people don’t understand how publishing actually works, and how few authors make a killing from even a book that appears on the main NY Times best seller list. Was it a tremendous achievement for you to hit the NY Times list in any niche? It was indeed – but I bet it isn’t going to fund college for two kids.
You’ve provided me not only with a million ‘how-to’ hints and ideas, but many hours of reading enjoyment. You ‘owe’ me nothing….and I wish you only health, happiness, and success in whatever you do in the future.
Steph says
Whoa guys! This is a blog. A free place on the internet you get to visit and escape your own lives for a few minutes. Yes, John and Sherry have turned this into a way to earn a living, but they don’t owe you anything. It’s pretty obvious many of you think this is something they spend a mere 15 minutes on a day and then spend the rest of their time rolling around in piles of money they have lying around.
Come on.
What I see is two people who have captured the hearts of many. They became successful through hard work, planning, saving and more hard work. They have a family, a personal life and they deserve to put them number 1 over anything, even this blog and your personal preferences for ways to waste time on the internet. If you are frustrated because you can’t make a living from a blog, don’t take it on them. Start working harder, stop being jealous.
Sherry and John, you guys are awesome. Keep doing what you are doing.
Sandy says
REALLY STEPH??? And just how do you think J&S have to managed to make a living (and a very good one at that)??? Pageclicks that come from you and used to come from me. And it was from that they were able to get a book deal and a deal with Shades of Light and so on. I’ve enjoyed a lot of what J&S have done over the years but it’s been going downhill for a long time and the laundry room was the nail in the coffin for me. That shelf looks like a grade school shop class project and the backsplash is an unfinished mess as is the floor tile that you can see from the hall when the door is closed. They’ve created a business, a brand and remember we’re the customers, not fangurls.
KML says
Sandy, it’s obvious that you came here from GOMI. Your comment may as well have been copied and pasted from the YHL forum on GOMI.
The whole “we’re the customers” thing has been talked to death over there. Perhaps you and the rest should actually look up the definition of “customer”. Here, I’ve done it for you:
cus·tom·er
noun
a person or organization that buys goods or services from a store or business
So let me ask you…how much money have you spent in order to read YHL? Do they charge you for a membership? Do they charge you a per-post fee to read? Have you paid any money at all to read this blog?
No. Therefore, you’re NOT the customer. YHL’s customers are the advertisers who BUY AND PAY FOR advertising space on their blog.
People who get something for free, whine and complain about it, and demand more, just astound me. You people have some serious entitlement issues.
Kristen says
KML – they get money from pageclicks. If no fans come to their page, they won’t make money. Enough with this “don’t like it then don’t read it” stuff. This is their business so they need to make their demographic happy and from the massive amounts of negative comments, they need to do better at it.
Kate says
Like others commenting i have also been reading YHL since it was TYH. I too love the little projects. Posts on simple budgeting strategies, or medicine cabinet organization are often more applicable to my life then bigger projects like a kitchen reno… but i love reading those too. I would love to see more short posts on small projects popping up again. THAT SAID, when crazy weeks come up it’s totally cool to have some off days last minute. everyone needs sick days and personal days off from work, including the self-employed.
Nic says
It makes me sad to say this but I just feel like I can’t relate anymore. I used to really love this site and the content but things have become less budget friendly and less design oriented. I still check in hoping for things to pick up though and am hoping you guys find a great balance that works well for you and your family :)
Michelle says
I love you guys and this blog and will read whatever you write till the day I or this blog dies. Keep blogging on!
Erin says
Hi Sherry & John,
I think a lot of folks have really taken the request for feedback too far, including discussing your finances or what you chose to reveal regarding the purchase of your home. It reminds me a lot of the commenter that made it her personal mission to brow beat you into revealing your second pregnancy, and I find it distasteful.
I really love your blog. I’m a renter currently, so the big projects are out of reach, but I love to read them. I do miss hearing from Sherry, but I think it makes sense that we’ve been hearing a lot more from John recently. Since you asked, I prefer a small post to no post, but life happens. I think most of your readers understand this, while the others seem to be Olympic medalists in conclusion-jumping.
Thanks for sharing your home with us!
Laurien says
Holy wow! That’s a lot of comments, so I’ll be short. While I am sad that there are fewer posts, I think you guys have your priorities straight and are doing a fantastic job! I tried to start a blog. It lasted a month. It was soooo time consuming! I just think people should be a bit less demanding and that while you love us all (ha ha ha) you shouldn’t have to worry about ‘disappointing’ us because you haven’t stayed up til 3am writing a blog post! Love you guys and your awesome little family :D
Janie says
Hi Sherry, John, Clara, Teddy, and Burger! I hope you’re having a great weekend!
I have been a reader since the very beginning and YHL continues to be my favorite blog. I don’t think I have ever commented before, but I feel the need to do so on this thread to express my 100% support for you. I think it’s so generous of you both to even ask for commentary from your readers; honestly, if it was me, based on some of these mean and entitled comments, I would probably disable the comments entirely!
To those readers saying things such as “one post this week is kind of ridiculous”: how much are you paying to read this site? Nothing! John and Sherry are not our employees. Sure there are advertisers which may have requests for John and Sherry, but that is their business, not ours.
I think these comments emphasize how addicted online readers are to constant content. Maybe we should all be spending more time offline. I am so happy that John and Sherry spend time with their family and think they set a great example for all of us. If you really want more content, maybe re-read the thousands of posts that John and Sherry have on the site and have worked so hard on the past several years.
John and Sherry – I haven’t noticed any issues with your recent posts, and continue to love the format of the blog. I really love the mix of all of your posts and hearing what is going on in your lives. I really love Reader Redesigns and would not be upset at all if you brought in guest writers, featured a lot more readers’ homes if that would make life/the blog simpler for you. I’m just so appreciative that you are keeping this site going in whatever form you choose!
Jess says
Well said, Janie! J+S are not our employees. Wish more people would remember that!
Kay says
Janie, with all respect what you fail to realize is that we ARE the buyers. The audience that produces millions of pageviews that allows J&S to get sponsors and ad revenue and leverage that audience into book deals and other “side jobs” because of the audience they can bring to the equation.
So yes, it absolutely matters what the audience wants and ignoring valuable feedback is not only immature (I do what I want!) and self sabotaging. Not good advice.
J&S aren’t asking how all bloggers can improve. And sure, some people could expand their readership. But if they want readers on YHL then this feedback is the best thing that could happen because honestly, if nothing changes the best thing to do is unsubscribe, delete the bookmark and not return.
John, Sherry – the fact that SO MANY people have been giving you constructive feedback means that you have the chance to turn this around. To not sweep it all under the rug with a shrug and a “thanks for caring about this little ole blog of ours” and then going on business as usual.
Make your decisions as a family, decide what serves y’all long term and own it. Tell us what to expect, live up to that and yeah, you’ll lose some readers but not as many as ignoring the issue or making promises you don’t keep.
In business we don’t buy from people we do not “know, like and trust” and now is the time to rebuild trust.
Meredith says
You guys are great! You do not “owe” us anything! Do I love reading your blog? Absolutely! I do miss the change in content…not that I mind the laundry room or the technical posts. I always file them away mentally in case I want to apply that knowledge. You guys do a great job of step by step details of projects. That may be boring for some folks, but it’s sure helpful when you need it! I miss the flow of variety, i.e. family posts, budget crunching, organizing, quick updates, reader redesigns… It seems the personable, relavant material that once flavored your blog has become a bit clinical and almost one-note. I would love for you to continue blogging even if it’s shorter blurbs or lighter fare. But if you quit today and said you wanted to pursue another avenue with your skills I would not begrudge you one bit! You have but one life to live, so do it well!! All the best to you both!!
SAA says
I think it’s time to close the comments section to this post. Surely Sherry and John have received enough feedback on the specific question they asked.
For a site that is so refreshingly upbeat and earnest, I am shocked by the volume and gratuitous scattershot of negative feedback. Although their comments are prefaced by the shrugging frenemy’s phrase, “since you asked…” or “just my two cents…”), I feel as though I am witnessing a beating.
To those who aren’t enjoying the site anymore: Please quietly exit and bookmark instead some of the hundreds of alternative sites which may suit you better.
To Sherry and John: Please ignore the bullies (don’t even bother composing a response) and carry on.
Susannah says
Well said!
Maura says
I agree, nicely said SAA. I am saddened and appalled by some of the harsh comments that have been left.
John and Sherry, thank you for sharing your lives, talents, and creativity with us… I love your blog, but you don’t owe me anything. And after reading some of the comments that have been left here, I wouldn’t blame you for closing down this blog and calling it quits.
Terresa says
True dat!!! Sheesh, these people are HARSH. Just do your thing, 99+% of us love it. Your posts are great, whether they are detailed, step-by-step posts on a major project, or just a quick little blurb about family life. Your personalities really come through, and we all love that. I don’t feel a “disconnect” at all, as some people have said. I get angry reading some of these comments. The NERVE of some people, “I don’t see that you’ve grown in your DIY skills or your business practices” While she’s entitled to her opinion, It’s your @#** house, and I’m continually impressed with your DIY skills. So like SAA says — Carry On. I would hate for you to take too much of this to heart and decide not to do your blog — it brightens my day:)
C says
Like I was just saying–J&S are completely used to hearing criticism, they’ve been doing this for years. Without feedback and criticism how would they know what to change or what to improve?
I’m sure they are very thankful, as everyone probably is here–that people are feeling like they can truly share their honest thoughts right now, whatever those thoughts may be. It’s great to have open dialogue like this. And think of what a huge and valuable reference they’ve accumulated all here in one place…I would love that if I had a blog.
It’s also great that everything I’ve read here in the comments has been so civil…we all know it could have easily devolved into name-calling and tantrums elsewhere on the internet, but it hasn’t. So thumbs up for that, and for everything else I said! Again, I am impressed on that note J&S.
Leisa says
I wish there was a like button for this comment.
Heather Rivard says
John and Sherry,
Thank you so much for your consistent and generous content all these years, it’s been a huge blessing to me. I have two thoughts:
1) Schedule: I was disappointed by this update because it felt like you broke your word, and that’s one thing that has set you guys apart for me over the years: you do what you say. I don’t mind at all what schedule you choose, so long as it’s clear and consistent.
2) Content: I would love short little personal updates, Young House Life style to complement the juicy DIY content, which is understandably moving more slowly these days.
Again, thank you for your absolutely beautiful work .
Sherry from BC says
I think you need some fresh input in your blog. Why not hire an intern or help in some way to give you some help and to spice things up.
Susannah says
Wowee! Some people sure are entitled and jealous! I know that you guys probably live and breathe this blog (in addition to a million other life things you have to keep up with!), so I can’t image it’s easy to hear some of these mean-spirited and unnecessary comments. Honestly, some of them hurt MY feelings! I felt insulted just for loving your blog! Chin up Sherry and John, go have a drink on that beautiful back porch and hug those awesome kids. Way to go!
For my feedback: I have too have missed some of the smaller posts and would love to see some more back. I often feel disappointed when I click over and find a “give away”. I think it’s all about a healthy balance! I really enjoy the smaller posts especially reader re-designs and house crashes. Because I am a young homeowner I also really appreciate the detail oriented how-to posts. I don’t usually read them right away when you post them, but often come back and look for them when we have a project to do and I remember seeing a how-to previously! Thanks for all that you do!
Chrissy says
I have been reading your blog regularly for a very long time. I grew up in the South and moved to NYC and in some ways looked at your blog in a sort of “Sliding Doors” way–what would have happened had I moved back home instead of staying in NYC for 8 years. Anyway, I liked how creative and candid you were. I liked how you came up with smart solutions in a small space in H1. I could relate to your style and budget constraints. H2 was impressive with projects like John’s side porch project, and I appreciated him being so open about struggles with things like permits—same for the labor-intensive stone patio. But basing the color palate of the entire home around Sue the Napkin became a little…juvenile. Maybe for a starter apartment–but for an entire house? Eh. That said, it was nice and colorful. I really appreciated how the book didn’t have any blog content in it and was very reasonable for someone on any budget–major kudos.
I really started to get irked with the blog when H3 came into the picture. What a fantastic opportunity to make forever choices and quality purchases, and it’s all felt pretty wasted so far. Instead of being able to show off all you’ve learned, readers have witnessed a sad attempt at whitewashing, a stenciled subfloor, the same. color. palate., the same old tricks, half-attempts at weekly crafts, more trips to the same stores to buy disposable furniture rather than quality pieces (save for the new outdoor sofa & nice dining/kitchen tables). With a few exceptions, it’s just not been as inspiring. You’re trying to insert the same style you’ve had for a long time into a Colonial home, and it just doesn’t fit. On top of that, there seem to be limited attempts at learning how to really improve your skill sets (for example: photography), or if you *have* taken steps–you haven’t communicated that to your audience. Go get certified in something–home staging, home decorating, take a photography class, or really a class for anything related to your business. That way when you get defensive about choices, at least we know you’ve educated yourselves and made those choices because you’re a trained professional. Many professions require continuing education, and employees have to continually take classes throughout their career to stay on top of the latest technology, trends, or procedures. That should apply to you as well–especially since it was all just “one big accident”. So much of your business could be delegated to an assistant or two, or guest bloggers. That would lighten the load on the two of you and maybe bring back the “spark” so many are missing. Style bloggers have figured out how to stockpile outfit posts, there must be a way for you to do the same for when you’re feeling too overwhelmed and need a break. If you’re not sure of what to do in your forever home and need a breather–go do some quick redesigns for locals (your grandmother’s bathroom is a great example of this). Start small so it wouldn’t be as overwhelming as the show home, which clearly pushed you both to the edge. The Reader Redesigns are always fun, especially when they showcase homes different from your own. I wasn’t a fan of the most recent Reader Dilemmas, however…and reached my breaking point with the sad photoshop renderings in Jamie’s Dilemma, only to have other blogs or commenters come up with better and more cohesive ideas. You’ve been at this for a long time and so many of us are still waiting for you to evolve–to step up to the plate on this unique opportunity you have been given–and instead it all keeps unraveling.
And yet…I still keep coming back to read your blog. Why? Because I’m rooting for you. I am giving all of this criticism in the hopes that you will come back having turned a corner, inspired and guns a’ blazing. I’m not trying to be mean, I promise. I’m a regular customer of yours! I’ve bought your book! I’ve told people to read your blog! I’m having a baby and bought a number of products you’ve recommended! I just want you guys to get out of your rut and inspire us again. You don’t have to pretend like you don’t have money now–you can mix things up to satisfy both ends of your audience. Alternately, if you’re over it and want to move on to other jobs that’s ok too. We’ll find other blogs (if we haven’t already) and life will continue on.
My best to you and your family, and I hope you read and consider every comment.
Amy says
The downward spiral of YHL content is sad. When I first started reading YHL, I was enamored by your witty writing and DIY enthusiasm. I cheered you on as I saw your success soar to heights you never imagined. I was genuinely happy for you and your sweet family. However, something has changed along the way. You no longer keep it real, the spark has disappeared, and the trust you had nurtured with your devoted readers is muddied. You are no longer the frugal DIY couple and have not evolved the blog to reflect your financial growth and success. Yet you still try to maintain your “dork” status and saving pennies facade. I questioned how you could carry mortgages on two homes (H2 and H3) and pay for major repairs in H3 while doing so. I questioned why you never replicated the wall of framed memorabilia in both H2 and H3 — the wall that supposedly meant so much (Where is it all? In a pile in the attic?). I questioned why you could never own up to bad design decisions and the snarky attitude in comments. And now I am questioning why you did not stockpile posts during Book 2 — you used to effectively plan your vacations and the blog never missed a beat when you were posting twice a day. Perhaps you are done with the blog and have bigger plans in the works. So be it. I am sorry that other priorities have affected your ability to maintain your blog to the high standards that brought you great success. I miss the old John and Sherry.
Betsy Hamilton says
My first reaction to your question was that you should do whatever works for your family and not worry about what anyone else wanted, but I realize that might be problematic when what everyone else wants constitutes your livelihood to some degree. I have been reading your blog for probably a year and a half, and I call it up most days. If there’s nothing new or there’s some big project that I will probably never undertake, I don’t spend long here, but I don’t resent it or get grumpy. I like the little snippets of your life woven in, love the family pics that show me your house in use, like the crafty things that can be done in an afternoon. I am okay with the reader redesigns and I do enter the giveaways every single week. (I like the fact that lately the products you feature from the giver-awayer seem less samey.) I will keep reading regardless, but I appreciate your asking us. Thanks!
Amandine L says
Hi there,I’m amazed by the harshness of some comments above!Wow!
I have personally just discovered your website,and I was in Heaven!
You have of course lovely ideas,give great advice etc,but what I like above
all is your enthusiasm.You make it sound like it’s all doable with a bit of
elbow grease and I’m so tempted to believe you!!!
I ordered your book (it should arrive before the end of next week,and yes I’ve been checking the post frenetically…) and can’t wait to read it.
Keep up the good job please!
Big hug from France!
PS the golden final touches in your daughter’s cupboard just made me
giggle-you’re a sweet couple really!!!
Amanda says
I would always rather see a little something rather than nothing at all! I like a mix of long and short (dude, get on that already FTW!)
Gina says
John and Sherry,
Please don’t start pimping your kids out again just because people are asking you to. You seemed to have dialed back on that and I think it was the right decision.
Lisa says
I agree. I often felt very uncomfortable when there was a post with twenty pictures of Clara in a completely unrelated post or when they showed her thumbsucking in a video or pictures of her in only a short dress and a diaper. Her whole life, these pictures and videos will come up when a future employer googles her unique name – hardly fair.
Annie says
I’ve been reading some of the comments relative to the number of blog postings per week. First, I think it is totally up to John and Sherry as to how many posts they do. I also think some people need to get a life, as they seem to be way, way too invested in John and Sherry’s life! I enjoy reading the blog, but I’m not devastated if I click on one day and there isn’t a new one. And if that’s the way people feel – so disappointed and let down – well, maybe they should just go elsewhere. Same for those who are being so critical of the blog content. No one is forcing you to hang around – I’m sure John and Sherry will go on without you and people like you. And yes, I know they asked for opinions, but honestly people, this is just a DIY blog. It is entertaining and informative, but it can’t be all things to all people. In my opinion, John and Sherry should do whatever they darn well please, and let the chips fall where they may!
Corie says
Annie (and others), do you think it’s insulting to call John and Sherry’s career “just a DIY blog”? It is “just a blog” to readers, but to J&S, it’s their livelihood. They’ve worked hard, very hard, both on their home and with marketing themselves, to create a BRAND NAME for themselves.
If all the people who left constructive but critical comments this weekend were to “go elsewhere” and if J&S “let the chips fall where they may”, heck, if the internet vanished tomorrow, life would be a lot harder for J&S and they’d be grateful for having to deal with a weekend of conflicting comments.
Kristen says
I second Corie’s statement. This is a business, not a hobby for them. I wouldn’t call my job “just my job.” – It’s how I pay my bills and if someone wants to give me constructive criticism to how to keep my job, I am CERTAINLY going to listen.
J&S – I hope you sincerely listen to all this advice. Your hearts don’t seem in it anymore and it makes me sad. If your hearts aren’t in it, then I personally think it would be best to follow a path you both enjoy and shut down the blog. If you keep the blog, I hope it goes back to the way it used to be, where I was happy and inspired when I read. I also hope that you keep the kids off the blog like you have been lately. I’ve been impressed with your respect of their privacy recently and I hope that doesn’t change because of comments wanting pictures of them back. They aren’t our children to view. I am glad that millions of strangers haven’t seen photos of me growing up and that my employers won’t find childhood photos of me if they google my name. If anything, just please keep up the privacy.
Diana says
Hey J & S,
I seriously love your blog and have no problem with the direction it is going. I am a soon-to-be architect and I enjoy the technical, the crafty, the cheap, the expensive, the colorful, and everything in between. You guys were one of the first blogs I began to follow and now I have a handful more that I check in on. Your work is inspiring and what I like most is that you are true to yourselves and your family. That is simply my opinion and thanks for putting yourselves out there every week!!
-Diana
Anne On says
I think you should run your blog the way YOU want. But since you asked, I really miss “Young House Life.”
I’ve been reading your blog for a couple of years, even though my design preferences differ from yours, don’t listen to rap and a confirmed apartment dweller unlikely to ever build a laundry room. It is your personalities and enthusiasm that keep me clicking over daily.
Claudia says
I like the shorter posts… I love to see quick projects and reader redesigns, house crashing, etc!
Jodi W says
I SO agree with SAA…this thread has been very uncomfortable to read. I have felt like crying for you, John and Sherry! There are some really grumpy people out there. Ignore them and continue to follow your gut…do what YOU love! It’s not about “them”. It’s about your family, your life, your blog. Those of us that love you…will be here for you no matter what!
Felicia says
2 words – IGNORE. THEM.
Missi says
I really enjoy everything that you guys do! When I first started reading you were spray painting the handles on a patio slider (I think in your last house). I’ve always loved the small stuff – because it’s stuff that I’m more likely to do and be directly inspired by. You guys are great at describing the process for paint colors, organizing a junk drawer, finding a new use for thrift store finds. And the peek into your family life is always enjoyable – Clara is hilarious, as are the two of you, and I’m really excited about seeing more about little Teddy.
That said, I understand that having TWO kids on top of the blog and book stuff is a lot more work, and that it might be more efficient for y’all to focus on the big projects rather than spending so much time shooting, writing, and editing a junk drawer reorg.
Honestly? Do what you need to. Your business is dynamic and changing, as is your family, as are the lives of your readers! I, for one, will keep coming back. You guys make my Monday mornings so much happier.
Melanie g says
I love what you have been doing- keep it up! This free amazing resource that your offer to all of us is so appreciated, especially considering all of your family responsibilities. Thank you!!
Kristen at This Little Blue Homestead says
With regards to your dilemma I really think you guys should utilize the blogging community and tap into some guest posts. Some fresh bloggers bring a lot of passion and different perspective that could really lighten your load as well as bringing a lot of exposure to some up and comers.
Holly says
I totally agree with the fact that you guys put your family first over the blog. I don’t think you should have to feel pressured to post all the time, but at the same time a little change in content is nice, too. Probably for y’all, too! I myself LOVE reader redesigns and would love to see more of stuff like that if you can’t post a regular post. I saw where you said you have a stockpile of half written smaller posts collecting dust – bring ’em on if it’s not too time consuming!
Kelly says
Hi guys!
I have been reading your blog since house #1. For me, it seems like you reached a point where you had to choose whether or not stick with the “my first place” vibe, or a more evolved, expensive style. I think that many of your longtime readers have outgrown the Target/IKEA stuff, so we may feel a little less interested. I don’t click over as much as I used to, just because I don’t particularly care for that style any more. It’s not because you’re doing anything wrong, or anything regarding post frequency.
That creates a business conundrum for you though. Because you have the cutest family! But the family stuff may not resonate with the young adults that are most likely to be your audience in the near short-term.
So, I don’t know. You can’t please everyone, but maybe you’ll have to pick a narrower demographic and aim for that. You guys have worked so hard and built something amazing! I wish you the best of luck and much continued success.
Natalie says
I’m a longtime reader and WAY too often my husband hears, “well, the Petersiks did such-and-such…” I was so thrilled with your decision to streamline your schedule to focus on your blossoming family. Kudos! That said, if you feel you can slip in some small, simple posts a couple of times a week, without sacrificing family time, that would be great!
Kelsey says
There was a time, back when I first started reading YHL, where I would have been like, “I am a renter and thus get nothing out of the detailed reno posts!”. However, about a year ago, I gathered up all of my courage and savings and built myself a tiny house, and during that period, man, I became SO grateful for the nice detailed posts on how to frame walls and properly install wood floors and grout tile. I wished I’d had John’s recent door post back when I was installing my own door, for instance: it would have gone a LOT smoother. I like that YHL is a place where I can learn how to build a wall and then figure out what whites will work on it once it’s built; that balance makes it incredibly valuable to me. I would say that your optimistic “Eh, let’s give it a shot!” attitude towards projects was one of the big catalysts that got me building my house in the first place; you’re careful, but you recognize that it’s not the end of the world if something doesn’t work out perfectly. So thanks for that :)
I really appreciate you guys asking for feedback; I know that opens you up to a lot of hurtful stuff as well as helpful stuff. Here’s my two cents: like a lot of people have said, I really appreciate a mix of post lengths and types. I’ve also been reading back through your archives on days when I need a YHL fix, and one thing I do really appreciate from those earlier days is your focus on doing things in a way that is economical and moderately doable by, say, Person Who Is Eager To Learn But Doesn’t Have A Ton of Expertise (which describes me pretty well!) If a post begins with, “The first thing I did is go out and buy $700 worth of saws”, then I generally feel like, “Welp, this is something I can’t do.” [Please note: I am not calling you guys spendthrifts at all–you’re not. And I really wish I had more saws! But it is a ton easier for me to play along at home if expensive and fancy tools are not, like, the starting premise of a post.]
Having just read through a bunch of the comments, I just have to say….guys, this content is free. Unless everyone else is being confronted with a paywall or something that I’m not seeing, I do not understand the vitriol At. All. There’s no tip jar, there’s no fundraising from the readers, there’s no sneaky advertising masquerading as content. I mean, yes, I am a reader, and I guess I am providing pageviews, but honestly, I don’t read YHL as some kind of charity exercise: I do it because I enjoy and gain a lot of benefit from the content. It is a reciprocal relationship, except for the part where I (and the rest of the readership) are doing nothing other than sitting back and being entertained at work. As such, I am finding a lot of these entitled “I PAY YOUR SALARY!!!” comments pretty off-putting.
Keep on keepin’ on, J&S.
Kay says
google the phrase “if you’re not paying for it, you become the product” and learn how ABSOLUTELY the readers are the ones who indirectly pay the bills.
Blogs operate by generating pageviews from you and me, which attracts sponsors and generates ad revenue. So that doesn’t mean YHL has to do what *I* say, but it does mean that J&S should be listening to the feedback of the fan base because if enough people leave there is no further income. There will be fewer buyers for book 2, lights, etc.
Everyone who shared “I think” is answering the question posed in the update – and conflating an opinion to a demand is erroneous.