I’ve received a bunch of comment requests for an update on how we’re doing when it comes to finding the ever-elusive work/life balance that we’ve publicly proclaimed that we want to get a handle on this year (we never aspired to work nights, weekends, and even on vacation – and we only have ourselves to blame).
So we thought it was a fun subject to tackle while we’re working away on the front porch (can’t wait to share an update for you guys tomorrow!). The scallops are a-tumbling down and the columns are getting boxed in.
But back to the whole work/life balance battle. The first step in the not-working-every-second-of-every-day thing for us was definitely acknowledging the problem (it has definitely been harder for us to shut things off now that both of our jobs revolve around a 24/7 internet, and our laptops are only a room or two away). Then we just started chatting about it to the world at large (nothing lights a fire under your butt like a public proclamation). So we mentioned it here, here, and even here in this BBC video:
And now that we’ve been working on it for the last four months or so, with some noticeable progress, I thought I’d share a few things that seem to be helping us get more done in less time (we still have a ways to go considering that we still work three weekends out of four, but we’re moving in the right direction).
- Writing out a specific list of things that need to be accomplished and circling the top five priorities, then working towards completing those first. Prioritizing is helpful to me because it I can resist the urge to check smaller things off the list since they’re easier, which isn’t efficient if the bigger tasks are more important or time sensitive (I’m just stalling if I’m putting small easy things in front of the big important things that have to be done anyway).
- Being satisfied when we each complete the five most important items of the day on our list. It usually takes us all day to get to that point thanks to switching off on caring for Clara, but once we finish them we have to resist the urge to add five more things to the list and work until 1am. Instead we’re trying to be satisfied and allow ourselves some non-work time in the evening when we can. It feels weird to cut ourselves off – but it’s so good for us to step. away. from. the. laptop.
- Cutting down on inbox clutter. John and I receive about 200 emails a day (it’s a pretty even split since we divide and conquer when it comes to managing ads, giveaways, and inquiries in general) but I noticed that around 30% of those emails are junk mail, so I took ten minutes one morning to unsubscribe to those daily offenders. Turns out it’s a lot nicer to wake up to emails in the double digits (even if there are 72 in my inbox by 8am) than triple digits (ex: 145 the first time I check my email) – so I’ll take it. We’ve also been using the canned message function in gmail to help us handle certain emails more efficiently (sure beats writing up the same info every time).
- Stepping down to seven posts a week instead of eight. This has actually really helped since we implemented it after mentioning it here. Even though it doesn’t sound like it should make much of a difference (it’s just one less post a week), it adds up to 52 fewer posts a year – which means that now one week night or even a whole Saturday may get to be spent doing something fun as a family instead of scrambling to maintain our old eight-posts-in-five-days pace.
- Being realistic. This year one of our resolutions is to remember that we’re only two people. Two highly dedicated folks who love what we do, but two people who can’t do the work of ten people, no matter how hard we try. So we just have to do our best and accept that projects could always be bigger and posts could always have more pictures but we can’t beat ourselves up about doing things as thoroughly as we can manage and then pressing “publish.” Especially when we’re churning out around 30 posts a month (which means that noodling one project or post too much can actually rob time from other things on the agenda).
And while John and I are very much a work in progress on this subject, my friends and relatives are all much smarter than we are (most of them work regular hours and spend every night, weekend, and vacation without being connected to a computer). Can you imagine?! It’s the most romantic notion, and we’re desperate to get in on that action someday. So I decided to text them all one simple question and see if they had any advice. The question? “How do you work smarter, and not harder?” Here’s what they all had to say:
Emily, a senior booking agent, mother of three (and John’s sister) says: Realistically I work smarter by asking for help and having a support network of friends. I literally spend hours in a car shuttling kids and can’t be in more than one place. So a very organized network of carpoolers is my lifeline. I realize and accept that there’s no possible way for me to do it alone. I also work smarter by having my older kids (ages 12 and 14) do their own laundry and put it away. They make their own lunches too. That old saying “don’t do for your kids what they can do for themselves” definitely contributes to our household running more smoothly.
Cat, a mother of two says: I put things away as I find them. Everything has its place. I designate a time each day to take a laundry basket and carry it floor to floor to put things away. I like to give myself a deadline like ten minutes to see how much I can get done. I read something once that said “Where does a fork go in your house? In the utensil holder in the utensil drawer in the kitchen. Make everything a fork. Everything needs a spot.” It really resonated with me. Oh and I don’t do auto pay on any bills because I like to look them over and make sure I’m not getting hosed, but I pay them immediately upon receipt. I’ve often found overages I would’ve missed if I signed up for auto-pay that way.
Roo, a mother of three and humor blogger says: I use canned responses in Gmail along with a lot of helpful labs in Gmail. And I like the send + archive button (here’s a post with more of her tips).
Noah, an artist, author, and brand new father says: I try to maintain inbox zero as a way to not let email be my to-do list. So I immediately respond to short emails, especially at the start and end of my workday. I think of it as hitting the tennis ball back across the net, “pok, your turn.” Sometimes I’ll quit my email program or cover the notification bar during the middle of my work day when I don’t want to be distracted. I also unsubscribe from mailing lists and have an auto response for messages that only need a stock response. I also separate personal and work email so I’m not distracted by the other when I’m at/away from work.
Katie, a blogger and mother of two says: For blogging, I think batch editing, grouping like projects together (spray painting ten things instead of just one), and writing out a post to-do list helps. I also like to upload all of the photos for five different posts in one day and then write the narration for one of them each evening that follows. I also have set times for comment-reading and post-writing that coincide with sleep times or independent play time for my children. I also like to plan out a morning craft or activity the night before so if I stay up late working I don’t rob the kids of something fun in the morning. Oh and I use a crock pot a lot, and always have shredded chicken on hand for quick meals.
Kristin, a freelance copywriter says: My calendar is my boss. I plan ahead, and live/die by it. I put workouts on there so time is scheduled in, along with lunch dates, deadlines, and whatever I’m going to work on each day. That way, I see my day, know what needs to be done, and feel good checking things off. You can easily work harder if you just fill your calendar with stuff until you’re not sleeping, but I don’t do that. I need a break. I also never ever EVER work on Saturday. Saturday is my day. No exceptions. Also, I like a glass of wine after a long day. It unwinds me ;)
Megan, a senior marketing director says: Efficiency and technology. Develop strategic systems and plans the first time you do something so that the next time you attempt it the path is already laid out for you. Evaluate the process a few times a year to allow for evolution and refinement. And if a computer can process something faster than you can, let it or learn how to let it.
Dan, a chemist (and my push-up loving brother) says: Multitask so there’s not a minute wasted. Like brush your teeth while you shower or watch a TV show and do pushups during the commercials.
Dusty, a full time quality improvement manager, mother, and blogger says: If you’re doing something you love, it won’t matter how hard you have to work to get there. The smartest people know this, and choose their tasks accordingly. And if its a job you hate to do, but it still has to get done (like cleaning the bathroom, prepping taxes, proofreading) it’s not a crime to outsource those to save precious time that could be better spent doing something else.
Heather, an advertising art supervisor and mother says: All of the following things seem to help me make my day go smoother and cut out inefficiencies: being prepared, doing research, hiring the right people with the correct skill set, making a plan, making a list, asking questions, thinking ahead, and preparing for the worst but hoping for the best.
Nicole, a blogger and mother of two says: I had to work more efficiently when I became a mom because I had less time (and desire) to work. I use canned email responses for pitches that aren’t a good fit. I try to get a little more done at night if I want to have a mid-week day off, and I started saving drafts in my WordPress admin with ideas for future posts. They could just be a title or a few links but they’re great for keeping me on track when I’m stuck and I don’t forget topics that I want to cover. I also have a secret Pinterest board (“Things To Blog About”) to visually bookmark ideas.
Lisa, operations director and mother of two says: It’s got to be technology. Keeping to-do lists, reminders, and calendars on my iPhone helps me get things done and get my family where they need to be. Menu planning also saves me a lot of time.
Diana, a trial attorney of thirty years (and my mom) says: The key to efficiency for me is identifying what I want to do, mapping out specific and realistic tasks that will lead to accomplishing it, and completing those tasks without distraction. I find that multitasking is usually too chaotic for me, so focusing on one task at a time leads to a better personal result.
Isn’t it interesting how something that works for someone (my brother loves multitasking) doesn’t work for another (my mom loves focusing on one task at a time – which is usually the best approach for me – so I guess I’m my mother’s daughter). And now, since I’m convinced you guys have secrets of your own, let’s pretend I just texted you the “how do you work smarter, not harder?” question. Any tips or tricks out there that work for you?
Update – Some of the most frequent requests that we get are for info about professionally blogging (how we made our site, how we grew our following, how we make money, etc) so we shared all of the details about how we started a blog, grew our traffic, and turned it into a full time job.
Penny Smith says
OK… so hard not to tease ya about that not-so-typewriter-class-like typing there! LOL! I so type like that too, catch myself and try to get back to giving those two fingers a job. Ha!
Haven’t been on for awhile! Nice to see your back into the swing (outside of the book tour thing, etc.) !
YoungHouseLove says
Oh yeah I’m the weirdest typer! Haha!
xo
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Erin @ The Great Indoors says
My job has event deadlines, kind of like your post deadlines. I have to keep track of lots of different elements of events each day, so the following things have helped me:
– Make an event to do list each week. It’s just a simple one-page form that I print out and write what I need to do for that specific event during the current week. I can adjust the form each week to add or remove events and projects.
– At the beginning of each day, I look through the week-long list and figure out what I can tackle that day. At the end of each day, I plan ahead for tomorrow. If I ever have a few extra minutes in a day, I refer back to the list.
– Gmail’s priority inbox has recently come in handy; I have all of my work and personal email in one inbox, and that system lets me prioritize the work emails first.
My biggest challenge has been in knowing when to put my phone (i.e., email) down. When I’m having dinner with friends or spending couples time with my hubby, I’ve had to learn to prioritize that time over work. After all, I need to make sure I enjoy the things that work makes possible!
I’ll have to try out the canned Gmail responses. That might come in handy.
Erin
Sassafras says
S.O.P.s – Standard Operating Procedures…for instance menu planning. Once I have a weeks menu done I immediately make a corresponding grocery list for every item right down to spices and pantry staples required for the meals attached to the back. I save these after I use them along w/the latest receipt. Each time I plan to use that menu I can quickly scan all the needed items and line out those that aren’t required this week and then take the whole shebang to the grocery and shop. I become more knowledgeable about what that weeks groceries cost and yet rarely have to do a full shop because invariable some of the spices etc. are already on hand. No more five o’clock “What’s for dinner?” woes.
Habits and regularity are great…I think it was Ben Franklin who said something about hating to shave but if he just made himself do it every day it soon became so commonplace that he no longer thought about it – it just got done. I always hated doing laundry but each morning while still bleary eyed and waiting for the coffee to brew I put a load in. Daily. I can’t stand smelling stinky clothes piling up so sometimes it is a very small load, but the regularity of it keeps it from being a mountain. Now an ‘un-thinking’ habit, and you know what? Now it’s just an ‘eh’ instead of an ‘eeeewwwwweeeee laundry, deep sigh’.
Tasks given a specific day. I water plants every Monday morning. I deep clean my toilets on Wednesday and husband does it on Saturdays.
Delegation. My kids (now young adults) do a lot – from cooking, laundry switch-outs and folding and put-away to vacumning. I started my boys when they were tee-tiny getting the laundry in and out of the machine, sitting on the side of the sink helping me wash plastic ware, etc. They are old enough to help by 2 1/2 to 3 years old.
Jess @ Grommets says
I think working hard has so many false ideas built up around it. Yes it’s great to work hard but it’s also vital to reduce stress. Whether that means working less or working on something less stressful.
Kim says
“Work smarter, not harder” has totally become a catch phrase my sister and I are using everyday as we launch our biz. Thanks for sharing! Love it!
YoungHouseLove says
Aw, so glad! Good luck with everything Kim!
xo
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Lisa says
These are all fantastic ideas! Some of them I already use, but others can definitely help me work a little smarter. Thanks for sharing!
Anne says
I’m a stay at home mom of a 7 month old girl, and wife of my sweet husband. :)
However, there is plenty of work to do around here in our family. I also occasionally take home organization jobs, which definitely require a work smarter, not harder game plan.
My favorite strategies:
-Keep lists on paper. I need to write it out, and literally cross it out.
-Wear a bluetooth ear piece around the house, while I’m working, in the car, etc (LIKE A TOTAL DORK!) I know, I know, but I’m telling you, that hands-free action saves SO much time.
-Set major boundaries about when I work. I do not EVER work on Saturday or Sunday. No exceptions. Nick, my husband, works M-F so I don’t like to book time to work when he’s not working. We need our fun family time.